What are the positives and negatives of getting it, and not getting it, on both yourself and your partner? Spend a lot of time thinking about all aspects of this.
Find out what your partner wants and why it is important.
Avoid the 2 common pitfalls: caving in too quickly, or pushing too hard for what you want.
Suggest a solution, saying why you think it would work for you and why it would work for your partner.
Partner responds:
If you agree entirely, then say why
If agree partly, say what works and what doesn’t
Suggest an alternative solution, saying why it would work for you and why it would work for your partner.
Keep adding value to your suggestions, to make it easier for your partner to agree.
Emma Swales is an experienced, fully qualified counsellor and psychotherapist, working with both individuals and couples in the Yorkshire area, including Otley, Guiseley, Yeadon, Esholt, Burley-in Wharfedale, Askwith, Baildon, Shipley, Bradford, Keighley, Addingham, Skipon, Embsay, Steeton, Silsden and the southern Dales
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